My fiancee is having trouble going down on me. She can usually last five minutes before her jaw starts hurting. It’s big–what can I do? When we try, she has me lie down on my back while she kneels between my legs. Is there another position that might work better and not cause her jaw to hurt? I’m about to marry this woman, and I don’t want to go the rest of my life without blow jobs. –Without Oral Enjoyment
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Before the outraged e-mails start pouring in about love and sacrifice and the relative unimportance of oral sex and the painful reality of blow-job-induced jaw aches, let me say this: I know from personal experience that five minutes can seem like an eternity when you have a big dick slamming in and out of your mouth. I feel for WOE’s fiancee. Really. Sucking dick, like waging war, can be a long hard slog, and even the most enthusiastic blow-job giver has to bail every once in a while. Still, it seems to me that someone who is invested in his or her partner’s pleasure wouldn’t bail after five measly minutes, however big his dick. And, WOE, if this woman isn’t invested in your pleasure now, when she’s your fiancee, it would be foolhardy to expect that she’ll be any more invested in your pleasure five or ten years into your marriage.
The 69 position is a much better option: your dick will be pointing down her throat instead of up at her sinuses. Instead of pushing up at the roof of her mouth, your dick will lie down over her tongue and slip down her throat. She’ll still have to open wide, and she’ll have to conquer her gag reflex, but she won’t have to open as wide as she did when she was kneeling between your legs. She can also wrap a fist around the base of your cock, effectively shortening it, and avoid the gag-reflex problem altogether.
