I’m a 27-year-old Jamaican man. I have lived in New York half my life but still have a very slight accent. For some reason this seems to drive women and men alike wild! Yesterday a guy followed me for five blocks after he heard my voice. I’m a good-looking guy, but for some reason I’m attracting all the wrong people. I get white gays and white women who want me to beat them and dominate them! To each his own, but all I’m looking for is a nice girl with just a touch of the freak. My best friend is gay, and he says it’s my “aura.”
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What can you do about it? Not a hell of a lot. Unless you’re willing to flounce around New York in a sundress and ruby slippers, you might as well use the effect you have on people to your advantage. Surely some of the women you’ve met who want to be dominated are also nice girls; I’ve met a lot of very nice girls who want to be dominated. If you don’t automatically reject girls who wanna be dominated, sooner or later you’ll find one who’s touched but not too touched for your tastes.
I work in a clothing store popular with high school girls. These chicks throw themselves at me constantly. Should I have sex with them? A lot of them sure look older than 17, and the sex would be consensual, but I don’t want my ass arrested for statutory rape. I’ve always said, “Enjoy the easy sex while you can,” but I’m not so sure what to do about high school girls now that I’m 18.
–Dancing Dilemma
Finally, DDD, your spelling is atrocious. If I were you I’d worry a little less about my roommate jerking off and a little more about my inability to spell “roommate.”
It may be a double standard, but I’m not the only one who holds it. At least in long-term relationships, I believe we all have a right to expect our lovers to “go there,” as the kids say, when it comes to relatively common sexual fantasies. And power-related sexual fantasies (bondage, S-M, domination, rape) are relatively common. But when it comes to indulging sexual fantasies that are uncommon–or simply disgusting–well, I don’t believe that’s something a man has a right to expect from someone he isn’t paying by the hour.
