Two weeks ago I responded to a letter from Fifteen and Gay, a closeted gay high school sophomore who longed to be “some dude’s sex slave.” FAG met a 38-year-old “really nice guy” on the Internet who offered to pick him up from school and take him back to his house. I advised FAG not to go, for all the obvious safety reasons. I also invited readers to weigh in on two issues: How can young kinky folks tell good kinky people from bad kinky people? And should FAG report the “really nice” 38-year-old to the cops?
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I am a kinky woman who is active in the BDSM community. Here’s my advice to someone who is young and kinky: First and foremost, learn all you can. I recommend reading “how to” articles as opposed to looking at kinky porn. He should also go to an Internet cafe or Kinko’s to do his research: if his parents find his stash of kinky information or porn, they could have him committed for psychiatric help. It does happen. Finally, FAG should report the 38-year-old to the police. The man is a predator–he needs to be stopped. If FAG really wants to be a sex slave, he’ll have a lifetime to pursue that in a safe way after he’s 18. My first BDSM-type thoughts came at around age eight, when I drew naked people hanging from chains. I survived the wait, FAG, and you can too. –Ms. Stressa
- Have clear and specific discussions with you re: contemplated activities; limitations; how to effectively communicate “Stop!”; levels of experience.
And there are reasons why FAG himself might not want to call the cops:
