Dear Readers: I’m on vacation. I’m actually sitting on the beach as I write this, knocking back margaritas and watching my boyfriend’s tan lines come in. But you know what? I’m still thinking about you and your problems. I’m always thinking about you and your problems–and isn’t that just like me? While I may get two weeks off during the summer, I know your problems don’t take two weeks off. So despite being on vacation, despite my impaired state, and despite my boyfriend’s tan lines, I’m still here to help.
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For the last three and a half years, I have been in a semirelationship with someone I met when he just got out of rehab. I stayed while he relapsed, went to prison, and went back through rehab. He’s relapsed again. When I try to leave, he tells me he needs me for stability or else he’ll end up dead. I am emotionally and financially drained. Am I addicted to him? Or am I just completely stupid? –Addicted to Love
You’re not completely stupid, ATL, since you had the sense to ask someone to tell you to dump the motherfucker already! (DTMFA!) Trust me, the asshole won’t end up dead. Like all users/addicts/assholes/bastards, your dumped motherfucker will quickly find some other fool to use and abuse. DTMFA!
My wife refuses to give me a blow job. I’ve eaten her out probably no less than 300 times in our four years together, and she hasn’t been down on me for a total of even 30 seconds. We discussed this issue before marriage. She promised she would “go oral” but never has. I always make sure she orgasms when we have sex, but as soon as she does I’m no longer a priority. Please help.
Oddly enough, I don’t get a lot of angry mail when I tell someone like IAH, a woman whose sexual needs aren’t being met by her boyfriend, to DTMFA. No men write in claiming that the boyfriend/husband in question would play with the pussy in question for hours and hours if only the woman in question weren’t dirty, lazy, and inconsiderate. Why is that? Anyone sending in an angry letter about my advice for SAM should devote a paragraph or two to this odd double standard. And in the meantime, IAH, you need to DTMFA!
