I am a single parent with a wonderful 15-year-old son. My son’s father, my ex, is a gay man. We’ve accepted this and we love him dearly, but there are issues affecting my son that my ex is ignoring. My ex has also been diagnosed with HIV. This was heartbreaking news for all of us. Now my ex has announced that he is undergoing hormonal treatments to become a woman. He kept his therapy and the entire process a secret until two weeks ago. My son is deeply disturbed by this, and I don’t know how to help him. Basically he is angry.
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Dan, what can I do? My ex has hit us with one thing after another. My son is truly upset at the prospect of having two moms. I don’t know how to make my ex see that it’s not just about him. –Heartsore and Saddened
On the other hand…
From the tedious “Gor” fanatics in Yahoo! chat rooms to the cynics in charge of alt.com, the Web has been useless in helping to further my goal of finding a nice, non-fucked-up yuppie dominatrix. It would be easier for me to find a sadistic male master, I think, if I were gay. I am jealous of gay culture on this score, but bellyaching serves no purpose. Will I ever find an abusive female partner? Or are statistics working against me?
We’ve seen lots of letters in your column from “mostly” straight married guys who want some gay action on the side. If there’s one out there reading this, we’d love to hear from him. We’ve been monogamous up to this point, we’re HIV-negative, and we’re looking for total discretion. (We don’t want our friends to know about this any more than our ideal straight guy, if he’s out there, wants his wife to know about it.) If a good-looking, mostly straight, in-great-shape, gray-haired Savage Love fan out there wants the occasional boy on the side, he should drop us a note! For our sign-off, could you print our E-mail address? Thanks, Dan!
