I’m 20, gay, and I just moved to the big city. I’m good-looking, I guess, because really hot guys are always hitting on me. I don’t actually like anal sex much, but I’m trying to learn. And that’s the problem: Most guys I sleep with don’t want to use condoms. How do I handle this? All gay guys want to have sex first before they’ll think about dating. How can I find a steady boyfriend and avoid getting infected with HIV if no one I meet will use condoms? –Bright Kid, Big City
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Mr. Watkins is HIV-positive. He admits that he doesn’t always practice what he preaches, but he refuses to beat up on himself. After all, he says, “[I’m] just another gay man…who makes mistakes, too.” And what exactly goes through Mr. Watkins’s mind when he puts other gay men at risk of contracting HIV? “I don’t like to think about it because I don’t want to give anyone HIV,” he told the reporter from the New York Times, who observed that “[Mr. Watkins’s] lapses also do not draw the concern and censure from his peers that they might have even a few years ago.”
Well, let me be the first to censure Mr. Watkins: You’re a moron. Jesus Christ, what kind of an IQ test does a person have to flunk to work in HIV prevention?
OK, with that out of my system, we can get on to your problem, Bright Kid, Big City.
